"The tragedy of sexual intercourse is the perpetual virginity of the soul."

- William B. Yeats

WHY ABSTINENCE?
We believe abstinence is the best choice for those who want freedom from negative sexual consequences and want to experience the ultimate sex life in a marriage relationship.

IF YOU WANT...
Real Freedom...
To learn how to say “No” to sex without hurting your boyfriend/girlfriend...
To start over...
An ULTIMATE sex life...

Real Freedom
Every year 1 million teens become pregnant and 3 million teens acquire an STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease). That means every 31 seconds a sexually active teen will become a mom or a dad, AND every 11 seconds a teen will get an STD that may or may not be curable. “Safe sex” methods have proven failure rates in preventing the 50+ STDs today!

Say NO without hurting your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Having sex with someone is an intense emotional experience and it’s meant to bond two people together in a powerful and permanent way, in marriage. When we bond with people outside of a marriage relationship, we're giving a little piece of ourselves away every time, and destroying our bonding ability. By taking sex out of the context of marriage, we can actually lose the ability to bond intimately with another. Sex is a lot like a rose, it’s beautiful, but if handled improperly you can get hurt from it. Every time you have sex with someone, you’re destroying that beautiful gift one petal at a time. What kind of flower do you want to give to your future spouse?

So how do you "NAIL" temptation without hurting your boyfriend/girlfriend?

No! Say it verbally and nonverbally.
Say "NO" forcefully and mean it. Don’t say things like: "I’m not sure" or "Maybe". Nonverbals also speak very loudly. Be sure you’re sending the same message with your body and your clothes as you are with your lips.
REMEMBER a disregarded NO is RAPE!
Alternative activities. Do things to avoid tempting situations: Plan ahead... Don’t be alone... Group date.
Date someone with the same values as you
I statements to tell your partner how you feel. "I" don’t want to have sex, "I" have decided to wait until I am married, or "I" care about you and don’t want either of us to get hurt.
Such statements are more helpful than getting angry at one another.
Leave! Hormones and sex drives are too strong to risk remaining in a tempting situation.

Starting Over:
Every day is a new day and you have the right to choose what kind of life you want to lead. If you have already engaged in sexual intercourse it is never too late to start saying “NO.” It may not always be easy, but the rewards are great. You’ll be happier and healthier! DECIDE TO CHANGE, DETACH FROM OLD HABITS, BECOME A SECONDARY VIRGIN!

Ultimate Sex Life
Studies have proven that couples who are sexually abstinent until their wedding night have lower rates of divorce and enjoy sex more! Are you willing to trade in a few years of abstinence for a lifetime of an ultimate sex life in a marriage relationship? If so, make a commitment to sexual abstinence and set some limits on how far is far enough. If you want to succeed you must set limits before you find yourself in a tempting situation.

We believe in you and know you have the ability to remain abstinent. We encourage each of you to respect yourself and the choices you make. Stand strong and believe that YOU ARE WORTH the WAIT!

Because we care...